Do I Have Binge Eating Disorder? Signs, Symptoms, and What to Do Next
You ate more than you planned to… again. Maybe it happened in the car on the way home, late at night after everyone went to bed, or during a stressful afternoon when you just couldn't stop. Afterward came the familiar wave of shame, guilt, or confusion. And now you're wondering: is this normal? Or is something else going on?
If you've found yourself Googling "do I have a binge eating problem" or "why can't I stop eating," you're in the right place. Keep reading to help understand what Binge Eating Disorder (BED) actually is, what separates it from typical overeating, and what you can do if you think you might be struggling.
What Is Binge Eating Disorder?
Binge Eating Disorder is the most common eating disorder in the United States. You read that right, and it makes sense to be shocked because it is not the most common one portrayed or thought about when people hear ‘eating disorders.” BED is one of the most misunderstood eating disorders and is often dismissed as a lack of willpower, someone who is not trying hard enough, or "just emotional eating." It's neither of those things.
According to the DSM 5, BED is a recognized mental health condition characterized by recurring episodes of eating large amounts of food in a short period of time, accompanied by a sense of loss of control and significant distress afterward. Unlike bulimia, BED does not involve regular purging, restriction, or compensatory behaviors. Here is where things get confusing, the diagnostic criteria of Binge Eating says that there is no compensatory behaviors, but we know that there is no binge eating without some form of restrictive eating. Myself, and many others believe that the DSM needs to catch up with lived experience and scientific research that shows that binge eating is the body’s natural response to restriction.
Signs and Symptoms of Binge Eating Disorder
According to clinical diagnostic criteria, a binge eating episode involves eating a larger amount of food than most people would eat in a similar time period, combined with a feeling that you can't stop or control what or how much you're eating.
During a binge episode, you might notice three or more of the following:
Eating much more rapidly than usual
Eating until you feel uncomfortably full
Eating large amounts even when you're not physically hungry
Eating alone because you feel embarrassed by how much you're eating
Feeling disgusted, depressed, or very guilty afterward
To meet the clinical criteria for BED, these episodes occur at least once a week for three months and are not associated with regular compensatory behaviors like purging. But here's what's important to understand: you don't have to meet every diagnostic criterion to deserve support. Do any of these symptoms sound familiar to you?
How Is BED Different from “Overeating”?
To be honest, I really don’t like the word ‘overeating.’ It implies that there is a perfect stopping point and has a negative connotation. What I like to use is ‘eating past fullness.’ It feels more neutral and that’s the goal, to have a more neutral relationship with food.
Almost everyone eats past fullness at times: at Thanksgiving, at a birthday party, or during a stressful week. The difference with BED is the loss of control, the frequency, and the emotional distress that follows.
With typical eating past fullness, you might eat too much and feel a little too full. With BED, the eating experience often feels compulsive, like something takes over and you can't stop even when you want to. The shame and distress that follow are usually intense and can affect your relationships, your work, and how you feel about yourself.
What Causes Binge Eating Disorder?
BED doesn't happen because you're weak or lack discipline. Research consistently shows that it's driven by a combination of factors:
Restriction and dieting: Counterintuitively, dieting is one of the biggest risk factors for binge eating. When the body is chronically underfed or certain foods are "off limits," the drive to binge intensifies.
Emotional regulation: Many people use food to cope with difficult emotions: stress, anxiety, loneliness, boredom, or trauma.
Neurological factors: Research suggests that binge eating is associated with differences in brain chemistry, particularly around dopamine and reward pathways. There is a strong correlation between ADHD and Binge Eating
History of trauma or adverse experiences: There is a well-documented connection between trauma and disordered eating patterns.
What to Do If You Think You Might Have BED
First: take a breath. Recognizing a pattern is a courageous step, not a reason to feel worse about yourself.
Here's what can help:
Talk to a therapist who specializes in eating disorders. BED is very treatable, and specialized therapy, including Weight-Inclusive Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), and approaches rooted in Intuitive Eating and self-compassion can make a significant difference.
Stop dieting. This might feel counterintuitive, but restriction often fuels the binge-restrict cycle. A weight-neutral, non-diet approach can help break it.
Be compassionate with yourself. Shame makes binge eating worse, not better. Healing begins when we can approach our relationship with food with curiosity instead of judgment.
Reach out for support. You don't have to figure this out alone.
Working with a Therapist in New Jersey
If you're in New Jersey and looking for support, working with a licensed therapist who specializes in eating disorders can be a life-changing step. Therapy for BED isn't about willpower or meal plans, it's about understanding the emotional and psychological roots of your relationship with food and building a healthier, more compassionate connection to your body.
Recovery is possible. You deserve support. And you don't have to keep doing this alone.
-Carianne D’Oriano, Licensed Professional Counselor
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